Wednesday, March 10, 2021

بيروت، حبيبتي

 

بيروت مدينتي

بيروت حبيبتي

بيروت عشيقة عشواء

تفتنك وتجذبك الى عناق يحييك

يشد العصب لترفع رأسك

فخراً وشرفاً أنها أحبتك وأنك تنتمي إليها

وبغفلة تقذفك بعيداً

تلفظك إلى غربة تعريك وتمحي معاني اسمك

 

بيروت حبيبتي المتمردة

تتصارع مع نفسها بلا ملل

لا تقبل النصح

لا ترضى بكلام محبيها

أدمنت الاختلال، في السماء والأرض والبشر

تدق الأجراس عند كل سكرة توهمها

بالانتصار على الخيبة والفشل

والعودة الى عرش تأخرت عنه

يعيدها الى مجد خلا

 

بيروت حبيبتي المجنونة

تدعس في قلبي لتصل الى هيكل لا يشبه النصر ولا المجد

لا يشبه سحر السماء عند غروبها

ولا صمود عقد عمّره أجدادي

لا يشبه أنامل جدتي تطرز تاريخاً

ولا خالي يزرع ليموناً

ولا أمي تغني لحناً

يشيد بجمال لا يحصى بقلم

 

بيروت حبيبتي لم تعد تحبني

هجرتني على عتبة وطنيّتي

وتركتني أجول في الديار الغريبة

أبحث عن حبيبة أخرى لن تشبهها يوماً

ولن أحبها

ولن أعشقها

مثل بيروت.

 

Thursday, June 6, 2019

Fireflies


Welcome to our brand new life in Zanzibar. It feels odd to still be referring to it as ‘brand new’ considering we’ve been here for 6 months, but in truth, I only just feel like we’ve settled in. This was in part mainly related to our prolonged search for a house – so many options, none of which ticked the main boxes for our family living – and slowed down by a broken foot that I acquired at the end of my first week on the island. Nevertheless, the cast eventually came off (two months later) and we were able to negotiate an affordable rent on a dream house, our shipment of furniture arrived and was installed (read: dumped), the furniture was assembled and we were finally ready to move in. It then felt that the two-month search had squeezed itself into the last 24 hours of packing all of our pieces that had spilled throughout our small Airbnb bungalow, and we were finally in our new house late in the evening, way after dark. In the starkness of our half-opened boxes, piled up chairs, and dark, unlit garden and pathway, a wave of fearful anxiety washed over me as I made my way to the car for one final haul from the bungalow. I had that same knot in my stomache that I did as a child overcoming her fear of the dark as she forced herself to calmly walk through the unlit living room and hallway to her bedroom. Keeping that same focus on the steps ahead, I was startled by some reflection in the bushes which made me stop in my tracks. I couldn’t quite figure out what was there until I realized that this was my first ever sighting of fireflies!! In my entire almost-middle-aged life and throughout all my travels, I had never before come across fireflies outside of the pages of some novels and my daughter’s stories. And here, at the end of an exhausting, stressful day, my anxiety was met with the light, joyful playfulness of fireflies. I could not stop smiling.

The garden is better lit now with fewer darkened corners around the bushes, but I still look for the fireflies when I am walking in at night. I am so grateful that they continue to find dark spots from which to flicker their light, which I always take as the same happy greeting as that first day: we’re happy to see you, welcome home!

Saturday, November 24, 2018

Relocation Equation


This is it. The year of planning and applying and fretting and wondering about where we would go next has fully crystallized in today, my first working day at my new posting in Tanzania. I am oddly comfortable with this – with the country that I have never visited, and the colleagues I have never before met. With the language that is neither familiar nor strange, and the little roads flanked by tall, slender coconut trees in lieu of sidewalks. This is a good sign.

I am so happy to be here. It’s an emotion I can’t fully comprehend, so devoid of the trepidation that lingered on every other time I’ve moved countries. I wonder where this comes from – have I become an old hand at this relocation equation? Not sure, but it does bring back to mind a question I was asked a few weeks ago in the lead up to my final departure. A friend asked me how I was feeling about the move, about leaving Oman even if we had only been there for a short three years? If I was anxious about what was to come or just in general. This is the response that I never sent to her.

I would only be fooling myself if I didn’t admit that I was, of course, quite anxious about the move, for two specific reasons. The first was all about the logistics of moving and making sure that everything that needed to get done was getting done, properly, and on time. We had never shipped our home with us when we moved, so that part was wholly new to us, and I didn’t know what we would or wouldn’t find in Zanzibar, so I was trying to be smart about our additional purchases. That is a process that always makes me anxious because how can I actually be smart about something I don’t know – your odds of making a good decision are always fifty-fifty and that is so frustrating. The second was my anxiety about moving my sweet pre-schooler away from the first home she’d ever known, from a nursery that she liked so much, where she was popular, and from the first friends she’s made. The mix of emotions is so chaotic as I tried to balance between how special her childhood will be with all these travel experiences, and my sadness that she will be too young to remember this wonderful place that was the site of so many of our happy routines and moments with her. I would struggle with this every day before reminding myself how fabulous it will be for her to have seen so many countries and cultures before she has gone off to college.

As one can imagine, the anxiety is mostly in the waiting. The truth is, I just wanted the day to come, I wanted to move because I knew that it is in our nature to then make the most of the situation, find the solutions, find our bliss in the smallest familiar things and the glorious new finds. The “waiting place”* was making me anxious, not the rest of it.

As I pondered this I also realized that my concern about my daughter’s connection to Oman was quite exaggerated. My family left Kuwait when I was less than 2, I have no recollection of it whatsoever, but feel I have a connection to it because that’s where my journey started. I grew up in the UAE, and that marked me in many wonderful ways. We were the first generation of Third Culture Kids, and though the struggle of fitting in everywhere and nowhere is real, it is also slightly exaggerated. I say that now because I did eventually move to Lebanon and lived there longer than I had lived anywhere else, and as patriotic as I am, and as much as I lapped up every moment of being in my homeland, that was truly, grossly overrated. Before you judge me, let me explain myself. I found my voice in Lebanon in a way I could not have done if I were anywhere else in the world, and I would like to think that I was able to use it to contribute to my country as a good citizen. However, and without going into a socio-economic-political analysis that we all know, there is a point where our valuable country starts to feel like the heaviest anchor pulling you underwater. There is no virtue in drowning, so I cut the rope and swim for air. The irony of ironies is that every time I have done that, it leads me to my happy Lebanese identity again. Like I said, I come for the first generation of Third Culture Kids, but I have never not been Lebanese wherever I went. And though I am revived by moving around the globe with my Lebanese-ness, I also know that when the travels end, the only home I will want, the only place that is home to us, is Lebanon. And that sets my mind at ease when I think of the Third Culture Childhood I am inflicting on my daughter – I hope she enjoys and relishes every part of it, I hope she immerses herself in all the cultures and people we will meet, knowing full well that though we might be swapping houses every four years or so, and though she may want to continue to travel and move long after she’s left our nest, there is always a rooted home for her in Lebanon.

That thought banishes any lingering anxiety, and revives my excitement about moving. As an eloquent friend of few words once told me “if God had wanted me to stay in one place, he would have made me a tree”. I hope we learn to plant trees wherever we are, and move on to plant others.

*Homage to Dr. Seuss.

Muscat - Mountains, mosques … and malls

Majestic Muscat is not just a convenient alliteration (though it is that), but there is truly something grand and simultaneously grounded about the capital.  When I first arrived, I couldn’t really get a handle on it as it appeared to be all things at once – modern and sophisticated, small and charming, barren and informal, old and new.  But it was always accessible and warm.  It appeared akin to your third cousin, whose life and quirks you don’t completely understand, but you always enjoy the company.

A month into our time in Muscat, and the city continues to unfold itself.  Since it is quite cosmopolitan, and thus familiar in many ways, its specificities don’t always leap out at you – that is, of course, with the exception of the bold mountain range winding itself around and within the city.  Aside from one highway that goes up a steady subtle incline until you notice that you are flanked by hills, there is another mountain-related turn I occasionally take that always takes my breath away.  In the midst of traffic and an intricate city highway system, focused on attaining the correct lane to take you where you need to go, you turn under a bridge and there before you emerges a truly majestic scene – the mountain range in the distance made ephemeral with the haze of soft clouds, untouched, unbuilt, and simply grand.  Perched on one of the lower hills is a beautiful, delicate mosque that looks like it was cut out of tracing paper and gently laid on the canvas – and from this distance, that is all you see, the buildings and daily hubbub fading at the bottom of your line of sight.  I never tire of this view, and I feel it was a generous stroke of urban planning that it is so easily attained from the street, opening it up to everyone driving through, rather than exclusively from selected buildings or houses.

The mosques are a whole other story.  Having grown up in a very Islamic country and lived in and visited numerous Muslim communities where mosques are omnipresent, I didn’t think that, after all these years, mosques would continue to catch my eye.  In Muscat, it would be difficult not to notice them for their beauty, simplicity and grandeur.
The Grand Mosque, named so because it was built to break world records in the number of worshippers it could hold at any one time, and the largest/longest continuously handwoven prayer rug (a record that was later broken by the Sheikh Zayed Mosque in Abu Dhabi) does not attempt to break records in types of precious material used, or the height of its minarets, or anything of the sort.  It is a single-tone terra cotta exterior that expands horizontally across an impressive surface area, decorated only by the intricate, subtle carvings on its exterior.  It spreads out octopus-like to its minarets (though not eight of them), with the dome perfectly fitted at the centre looking out at the street like the turbaned head of a sheikh sitting still in silent prayer.  It truly is, at the risk of overusing the word, majestic.  I won’t go into the description of the other beautifully designed mosques that we’ve seen here, but I will point out that the smaller neighbourhood mosques are similarly attractive in their uncomplicated designs and their harmonic sizes to the neighbourhoods and street corners where they have been installed.  When I was a child in Abu Dhabi, we would sometimes dread being around the smaller mosques because they were infamously the ones with the loudest loud speakers.  I haven’t been around these neighbourhood mosques around the call to prayer, but their simple minarets seem to imply that they are only there out of respect for prayer times – if you were to come to the mosque or pray at home, the minaret was happy for you to do that of your own will and not because its volume harped on your conscience.  The other aspect about these mosques that attracted my attention was that, with the rare exception, they were not named after people or families.  Many of them were named for the neighbourhood they were in or after a noble feature (such as dignity).  The main reason this caught my attention was because the mosques whose names are known in Beirut are almost exclusively named after a family or person.  I won’t go down the path of hypothesizing why that is in Beirut – probably no need – but I have to admit that I was quite touched by the humility with which these mosques in Muscat were built.

As for our last ‘m’, the malls, that are neither majestic nor humble, but they are E-V-E-R-Y-W-H-E-R-E!  So much so that not too far from where we are currently staying, there is one mall right in front of the other (I kid you not, you can drive down one street and turn right to one or left to the other).  I am guessing that one way in which it can be profitable to have so many is that they are all, generally, small, or at least smaller than malls that we are used to in other Arab cities.  This also means that they are not necessarily always a one-stop-shop, which I believe was the original concept of malls, but they are fun, and air conditioned and quaint, and so I’m grateful they’re around.  When on the hunt for maternity clothes (it continues no matter where I am), I was led to a few smaller shopping centres, which clearly pre-dated the mall concept in the capital.  I found those fun by virtue of the eclectic types of stores from a mix of eras, and made a mental note to go back and explore them some more. I have a feeling some gems might be found in those stores.  Though the real gems are, without fail, to be found in the old Muttrah souq, but that will have to wait for another Muscat installment.

I will, however, leave you with this last note that I feel summarizes the sophistication of this country.  While scanning the radio waves for some good stations, I stumbled upon a classical music station.  Yes, a station, an entire air-time schedule dedicated to classical music. I don’t remember the last time I lived in a country that had one of those! But there’s more – the pieces of music are introduced with a short explanation about the composer or the musicians, and peppered with interludes that explore some background about the instruments or the movement.  All of these are presented in English, but only after the same content is presented in Arabic first.  I’m not sure I can articulate why this moved me so much, but it did, and I loved Muscat more.  A friend who had visited Muscat in recent years said that this was one country where she found she was proud to be an Arab – I think I am beginning to understand that.


*Time lapse: for anyone trying to make sense of my timeline, this was written in 2016, before new motherhood swallowed up my need to write.